Things You’re Allowed to Say to Your Therapist (And Maybe Even Should)

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Going to therapy can be a daunting experience. You’re expected to open up to a complete stranger and talk about your deepest fears, anxieties, and insecurities. It’s no wonder that many people feel nervous or even embarrassed about what they’re allowed to say to their therapist.

But the truth is, therapists have heard it all. They’re trained professionals who are there to help you work through your problems, no matter how big or small. And while there are certainly some things you might not feel comfortable sharing right away, there are plenty of things you’re allowed to say to your therapist – and maybe even should.

Here are some examples:

1. “I don’t know where to start.”

It’s okay if you don’t have a clear idea of what you want to talk about in therapy. Your therapist is there to guide you and help you explore your thoughts and feelings. So if you’re feeling lost or overwhelmed, it’s perfectly fine to say so.

2. “I’m not sure I believe in therapy.”

Therapy isn’t for everyone, and it’s okay if you’re sceptical about its effectiveness. In fact, many people feel this way before they start therapy. Your therapist can help you understand how therapy works and what you can expect from the process.

3. “I’m afraid of being judged.”

It’s natural to feel vulnerable when you’re sharing personal information with someone else. But remember that your therapist is there to help you, not judge you. They’ve heard it all before and are trained to provide a safe and non-judgmental space for you to explore your thoughts and feelings.

4. “I’m not sure I want to change.”

Change can be scary, even when it’s for the better. If you’re feeling hesitant about making changes in your life or behaviour, it’s okay to express that to your therapist. They can help you explore your fears and concerns and work with you to create a plan that feels comfortable and achievable.

5. “I think this is funny.”

Therapy doesn’t always have to be serious. In fact, humour can be a great way to break the ice and build rapport with your therapist. If something strikes you as funny or amusing, don’t be afraid to share it. You might be surprised at how much laughter can help lighten the mood and make therapy feel more approachable.

6. “I’m not sure I’m ready to talk about that yet.”

It’s important to take things at your own pace in therapy. If there’s something you’re not ready to talk about yet, that’s okay. Your therapist will respect your boundaries and work with you to create a safe and supportive environment where you can explore your thoughts and feelings at your own pace.

7. “I’m not sure I trust you yet.”

Trust is a key component of any therapeutic relationship, but it doesn’t always happen right away. If you’re feeling sceptical or unsure about your therapist, it’s okay to express that. Your therapist can help you understand why trust is important and work with you to build a stronger relationship over time.

In conclusion, therapy is a safe space where you can explore your thoughts and feelings without fear of judgement or shame. There are plenty of things you’re allowed to say to your therapist, and expressing yourself honestly is the key to making progress in therapy. And remember, therapy doesn’t always have to be serious – sometimes a little humour can go a long way in making the process feel more approachable.

So go ahead and speak your mind – your therapist is here to listen.

Kenya Institute of Professional Counselling (KIPC) is always ready to assist you Work Towards Wholeness. We believe your mental health plays a huge part in you living your best life wholesomely and that’s why we are committed to provide you with quality therapy sessions at an affordable price.

We offer individual, group and family therapy. Our counselling services span from social, emotional and behavioural issues.

Call 0799 636 071 to book your therapy sessions today.

Therapy is a powerful tool that helps us navigate the twists and turns of life, providing a safe space to explore our thoughts and emotions, and ultimately helping us to become the best version of ourselves.

Clinton Ngunjiri N.


  1. Yeah, I absolutely agree with KIPC on counseling has the best medicine for the mind healing. mind plays atremendous work in a person’s life. When I started attending psychological counseling classes and therapy sessions, my life changed both ways, and I recommend to anyone who hasn’t joined counseling sessions or psychological counseling classes to do so. KIPC is the only best institution to assist you to rediscover your life stability.

  2. Therapy is the way to go in today’s world. One has only to be sure that he/she is in the hands of a professional(trained) counselor.
    I commend the vigorous training at KIPC.

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